I don't really know why I'm posting, except that it's Xmas eve, and I'm becoming more resolute in who I am and what I'll accept (setting boundaries?), and that I've been around so long as a limbo bimbo, trying to find my namesake, serenity, but more realistically stuck in the frays of uncontrollable, undefinable, "stuff". I promised myself I'd be in piecing one day, so maybe there lies the answer.
So, if anyone is willing to listen to the journalizing, I'll get through all this.
I have gotten a lot out of this thread, it's wonderful in the detaching: I interpret it about being yourself, standing up for what you want. Some of that had something to do w my M breakup, I think anyway.
Decisions are wonderful, but you have to stand by them and accept their ramifications. If you're true to yourself, the outcome isn't so significant. Your actions don't reflect your H's so much.
