You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[awest1217]

Just a story about Xspouses not getting along. I have a coworker whose parents split many years ago, but she still has to do everything separate because they hate each other and if they are together it is constant battle. So last year her and her sibs wanted a whole family celebration at Christmas, and she said the whole time it was trying to keep both parents in separate rooms so they never fought. It worked, but very stressful and she said never again. She is in her upper thirties and is the youngest kid, and she thinks it is stupid. She said they have been D'd for a while and both have moved on so just get over and suck it up for one event, but they can't.

I would hate to have that happen to you. With her, they always pick which parent to invite to things...don't make that be you. Get whatever help you need to work things out so at least you can look at STBXW and not cringe or at least be in the same room without awkwardness. It won't come overnight, but you can get there just give it time and get whatever help you need for that to happen.