Thought I would start this topic as it has reared its head a few times and I'm a bit confused on it myself.
Most of the advice I read from the "greats" (Allen, Puppy, Robx, Gucci, Sandi, to name a few...) say you should NOT be "friends" with a WS. That's not that you can't be civil, cordial, etc... but you don't positively reinforce their bad behavior by remaining friends. I agree with this, personally. Why would I want to be friends with someone who wants to abandon me and destroy my family....causing my children damage for a lifetime?!
It also, to me, just allows WS to disrespect you. You're going to say, "I'm willing to be friends" while they are telling you they have no feelings for you or worse, are off running around with someone else???
BUT...I remember one of the first things I read on the homepage of this website was a story of a man who remained friends with his wife - Best Friends, it sounds like - and was able to restore his marriage. Does DB/DR not endorse remaining friends???
I guess my stance - and it's a difficult line to find - is to keep the door open but I'm not going to be buddies with someone who is treating me badly or at best, with no regard.
Thoughts on practicalities of this subject? I am posting this on both Infidelity and Newcomers as I know different people hang out on different forums.
