IMO it starts with detaching. By doing this you pull yourself out of the emotions that distract you from the real work.
Looking inside you.
When you begin that journey you start a process of self discovery, looking inward finding your core, what your true values are, and focusing in on things you want to change in yourself.
This process (for me) also included looking at how I saw my marriage, defining love, understanding unconditional love and how I believed I could express that and have it present in my life. When you find your core (values)and begin to focus on those and let them manifest in your life and your M...
It follows down this path, and this is my personal experience and description of this transformation...
You receive Grace.
You gain the ability to understand love in all its facets and
... this opens your life up to unbelievable opportunities for growth and
...the loving experiences that transcend every human interaction you have.
That is what has happened for me on this journey.
Then
You will see your M in a whole new light.
You will see that it matters not what your W does.
You will have no more doubt about your choices...
Because they are made from your core.
You have the capacity to love your W in the best way possible...
without any expectation of her.
In that way you confirm your M, your vows and your love.
And this decision is part of who you are.
That is of course only my opinion.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
