How do you all 'love from a distance' when your MLC spouse spews bitterness and resentment towards you?
Stay away from her.
Have you read the five love languages book? There are more ways to show your love other than with words. What are her Love Languages?(LL) Maybe you can give her an AOS(acts of service).
When she is in replay, most LL are considered pursuing. You do not want to do that while she stays in replay.
Some of the loving from a distance in this stage is just by standing for your marriage. Not shutting the door on your marriage. You can shut the door by starting to date others or proceeding with a divorce agreement/LS.
Loving detachment is not that hard, it is the detachment that is the hard part, the loving should come fairly easily.