Instead I was thinking about how to handle issues like dating and sex as I move on.
Cart meet horse, and let horse lead from now on.
Dude, you aren't divorced, and you are already wondering about having sex with OW, and it is keeping you up at night. Ahem.
Honestly, I am not even close to a place emotionally where I would do that to myself or anyone else. Plus, sex to me comes after the establishment of a long-term R. I guess my point is that I am beginning to think about the future without her and it doesn't seem so bad. Frankly, I have absolutely zero sex drive at this point. Things that would have caught my eye 3 months when I was happily married don't even interest me in the least right now. And, there are a number of variables in play with the woman I have been getting help from that would be nearly insurmountable barriers to establishing anything more than a friendship in the future.
The answer does not lie in someone else. The answer is getting a life and becoming someone that others are interested in spending time with and potentially developing a R with. That is going to take a long time, but it doesn't hurt to at least peer into the future and have a plan as I move toward it. Does it?
M - 43 WAXW - 42 Married - 24 years Together - 25 years S - 23 - passed away 10/17/09 S - 22 Bomb - PA - 6/23/10 - WAW moved in with OM same night D-day - 9/17/10
