First advice straight off is start a new one, you are well over 10 pages. That is the legal limit here at DB. You can link this one to the new one and vice versa. Do this before Virginia sees your thread and locks it. When you are ready hit the notify button and ask her to lock it.
As far as your M goes, I believe you are getting good advice. I think you are rushing to make a decision that should take much more time than you have given it. MLC takes a long time. This decision should also take a long time. Start living your life in a detached manner as if you are divorced. Thats fine. You are already emotionally divorced. Why do you have to rush the legal portion? What's your hurry? This is all a process. It all needs time to play itself out. You took vows when you got married? Did they say when the going got tough I would leave? Just because your H is messed up doesn't mean you have to follow in his footsteps. OBTW I don't think you are assessing your H correctly either. He doesn't sound like he is done with you. Thats just MHO.
Ok I will leave it at that for now. Good talking to you on thursday
