She could have pain around ovulation, that is not unusual. I don't know if a woman could really feel the difference between a fertilized and an unfertilized egg. I think that only 1-2 days after conception would be too early to feel a pain relating to conception. However, if a fertilized egg becomes attached in the fallopian tube (usually several weeks into a pregnancy), then that can cause severe pain and can lead to serious consequences, such as a ruptured tube. The first unmistakeable symptoms that I experienced with pregnancy were tender breasts and a need for an afternoon nap.
Personally, I find the idea of planning pregnancy somewhat humorous. But then I went through several years of infertility before I became pregnant. In my world view children come when they come, and "the best laid plans of mice and men go oft astray". That said, I think that you should add her to your insurance immediately to be sure that if she did become pregnant earlier than anticipated that she will be covered by the health insurance. As I said above, there are things that can go wrong in pregnancy, and she needs coverage from the date of conception. You will have 9 months to work on the marriage even if she were to conceive now, and you can continue working on the marriage after a child is born too. There is no reason that you can't work on the marriage and be pregnant simultaneously. I think you will be surprised how much progress you can make in the seven weeks of the Retrouvaille program. She is cooperating with you and giving you what you want.
Thank you for sharing that. I appreciate your perspective on our sitch. I have thought about this too, even if W were to be pregnant we would still be able to work on our marriage as we prepare for the birth of our child. I also see how a pregnancy at this time could potentially tear us apart as well.
As for the remainder of yesterday (Friday):
W pretty much slept all day. W said he stomach hurt too bad to do the things we had planned (a burning sensation as she described it).
I took the opportunity to finally start cleaning the basement.
Not much interaction up till W woke up around 10PM. At that time I was laying in bed beside her figuring out my work calendar to see what days I need to request off for our trip. Once W woke up she told suggested a few events I add to the calendar.
W had checked her phone and see she had a missed call from a female co-worker who W had not talked to over the phone or via txt since OM was in the picture (or in my W's head that is).
During the 15 min W was up so she could get ready for bed she had a slight attitude, being a little 'short' with me...not sure what that was all about but could have something to do with the following
I told W about how I cleaned out some of the basement and finally got around to going through our clothes. I told her how I am doing loads of laundry and after we can go through our clothes and determine what we want and don't want. W made the comment "Throw them all out, nothing fits me anymore I'm too big" I said (rather than validating I guess) "You have a lot of nice clothes give them a try before we toss them" W then says "Well that's the reality of it" and after this exchange she had what I would consider a terrible attitude.
W asked if I could do a huge favor for her and iron her work pants, I told her that it would not be a problem. Before I walked out the room W asked if I could cover her up and so I did, then gave W a kiss and told her goodnight (yes I know it sounds juvenile almost 'father daughter-ish' but not the way it was intended).
W then went to sleep.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
