This thread is not my favorite. But you pointed something out here that I do believe in~
Quote: I think that no matter where you're at in your relationship, detaching from some situations, actions, and circumstances, is key to keep yourself, and your relationship, going. I've been having to use this a lot, especially the past couple of months.
Yes, I DO agree with that! Detaching from some situations, actions, and circumstances. NOW I DO THAT! But I do not detach from loving my H. Detaching from your partner when it is in your best interest, is differerent. When, there is no way you can work it out, or your S doesn't want to be friends. Then to detach is better for you. In my sitch, when I totally detached from H, he totally detached from me. When I complimented and was being his friend and loving from a distance ( which is more like giving H his space).That's what seemed to work at him coming closer. If that's detaching; I did it. But totally detaching, it's like you are saying you don't want anything to do with them, doesn't work in my sitch, it ended up getting me farther from my goal.
Every sitch is different, I tried it and it didn't work in my case. A case of trying and monitering. You must find what works and what doesn't.
But I just wanted to say JJ, that I did love your post! It was perfect!
