She could have pain around ovulation, that is not unusual. I don't know if a woman could really feel the difference between a fertilized and an unfertilized egg. I think that only 1-2 days after conception would be too early to feel a pain relating to conception. However, if a fertilized egg becomes attached in the fallopian tube (usually several weeks into a pregnancy), then that can cause severe pain and can lead to serious consequences, such as a ruptured tube. The first unmistakeable symptoms that I experienced with pregnancy were tender breasts and a need for an afternoon nap.
Personally, I find the idea of planning pregnancy somewhat humorous. But then I went through several years of infertility before I became pregnant. In my world view children come when they come, and "the best laid plans of mice and men go oft astray". That said, I think that you should add her to your insurance immediately to be sure that if she did become pregnant earlier than anticipated that she will be covered by the health insurance. As I said above, there are things that can go wrong in pregnancy, and she needs coverage from the date of conception. You will have 9 months to work on the marriage even if she were to conceive now, and you can continue working on the marriage after a child is born too. There is no reason that you can't work on the marriage and be pregnant simultaneously. I think you will be surprised how much progress you can make in the seven weeks of the Retrouvaille program. She is cooperating with you and giving you what you want.
