But a woman, who is so lacking in self respect to allow that male to do it, maybe even going so far as to say she deserved it? Or that this is some sort of twisted love on his part?
Broken...broken all around.
Jack, Sweetie, you know me and some of my story. You know the pieces can be put back together. It takes time. It takes a lot of time.
Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
And since children learn what they live...when does that cycle end?
The cycle ends when that broken woman picks herself up, dusts herself off, and begins to put those pieces together again and teaches the kids a different way.
Rlay,
My H, too had a temper. Most of it was emotional and verbal rather than physical. It was bad enough, at times, that sometimes I actually prayed for the physical instead.
It wasn't all of the time. I am still not certain that I believe it was most of the time. Because there were good and happy times. Although the fear of it, was always with me. That was all of the time.
It is ok to want your M back. I believe what Eric said is correct. You want the abuse to end but you don't want to lose your M because of it.
You do have the right to be angry. You should be angry. If you can't get angry at him for what he did to you, then he wins.
Don't fear the anger. Let it come out. As it does, you will be amazed the transformation that can take place within you.
You aren't alone. It may feel like that right now, but you aren't...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
