I'm stopping by his office on Monday to pick up a copy of what XH's ATTY faxed over. I've run my points by him when we spoke on the phone earlier today, and he stated that he saw all of them as valid. He didn't add anything more to it; just said if I wish for him to handle this, to let him know and he would, but he thinks I can do it on my own. Anyhow, if anything else comes up over the weekend, I will talk to him about it.
S10 has been holding onto to his phone all day. I got a peek at some of the texts his dad has been sending him. They basically said, "I hope you're not mad at me, S10. I was just doing what you wanted me to do. ILY and I don't want you to be mad at me."
Then my son said to me, "Mom, I don't understand something. Dad says he still loves you...but if he still loves you, then why does he always disagree with you about everything?"
My baby shouldn't be thinking about complicated things like that.
I did my best to explain that what his father probably means is that he still cares about my feelings (I guess it's possible even though he doesn't show it! *yuck*), and although people can still care about one another, it doesn't mean they will always agree on everything. What is most important though is HOW you deal with disagreement...knowing when to walk away if you can't resolve the matter respectfully and coming back when you can...and always, ALWAYS, speaking to the person how you would appreciate them speaking to you.
XH and I certainly haven't been the best demonstrators, but I hope some of what I said to him sticks.
I love my boys.
Ok, time to go get some ice cream! Have a great weekend, everybody! (((((Hugs)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
