21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[Chuck66]

I just got this email from her work. Yes its 9 at night and she went back up to work!

Sorry for being a bitch about the money thing. If I knew what to do about all this I would do it.
I feel so far gone that everyday I am just barely existing.

My answer I'm sure is not DB material.

And that is why you need the individual counseling not matter the cost.

But now it is me who is done.

You ask can we be friendly thru this. I would never want a friend who "doesn't care about anyone or anything" let alone be in a relationship with that person. You completely drag me emotionally downward. I can not deal with any more pessimism. It is not attractive to me.

Any discussion I had with you would be useless since you "don't trust a single word that comes out of my mouth and if I did say something worthwhile it would be because I have an ulterior motive and not a good one at that." I believe those are your words.

You quit.

You quit on me. You quit on the family. And you quit on our marriage.

The damage is done. I am done.

I will file divorce paperwork on Monday and pay the $222 filing fee. You were right all along and I should have trusted your instincts when it comes to relationships. I now see the light and that we are better off apart just like you said.