Sorry Jack, mistook your message. I thought you meant I wasn't doing it right because my smoke alarms went off. Off course, doing it outside right now could become a National Forest Fire. Melted the one gall durned good bucket I had burning the last bunch. When I used my kitchen sink, my grandson thought it was time to roast weiners.
Hired the boy down the road to weed eat around the pond for me. That will help keep the place looking nice for prospective buyers.
Had a good week at work ( despite the Cajun come on)Feel pretty calm and surrounded by friends here at home. Mental image: rounding up the wagons 'fore the Injuns attack'. In a small town, it's now what you know its who you know, and I was born here.
No great plans this weekend, but I am at least not dreading it as a slow, lonely, grieving time. ( Husband was always home on weekends) I'm even starting to show some interest in shopping again! How's that for progress, Girls???
I could refinance the house and keep it, but I really don't want to do that. This place was all about him and our retirement together. I was raised in town, and would feel much more comfortable with neighbors instead of coyotes and bears. I won't get in any hurry, though. The market sucks, and I need to make as much as possible on the sale of the place to buy myself a new place 'all my very own'. I'm in love with a 110 yo Victorian in town that has been completely redone. All original wood, decorative fireplace, huge mantal, stairway, etc. The only drawback? 110 years ago, no one had invented the heat pump. No heat. No air. Prospectus? 12-15,000 dollars. Plus there's the whole total lack of insulation thing.
SIGH. But it is beautiful.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Know just what you're talking about being in love with the Victorian. I am living in my dream home.
My Victorian is about 150 years old and NOT redone. I've been busy since we moved in 6 years ago remodeling and redecorating. It's constant and I still have a long, long way to go and adding insulation along the way! I wish I had the money to restore it, not in the card though, especially now.
Yes, it sucks that the housing market appears to have gone soft again. I'm glad that you'll be able to take your time and hopefully make a profit on the sale at some point.
Just came in from mowing and taking a shower. Read lastest posts on Irish Blessings thread. Some of what her H said struck home with me.
Since coming home from Iraq, H would suddenly go into funk's and accuse me of not being happy. At the time, the only thing that was making me consciously unhappy was him accusing me of being unhappy. These spats usually came on after dark, after he had been drinking, and the next day he would be good ole' H.
Thinking back, he even did this once on vacation after we had just had a wonderful day. I thought it had a lot to do with his depression over his physical pains and limitations more than anything else, and thought by being supportive, "I'd love you no matter what" was enough. To tell him that sex, which had become a problem for him, was not the all important part of our marriage and that I would stand by him always.
Maybe I was wrong. Maybe I made him feel that I was pretending to be happy, or worse yet, happy that he had the dysfunction he had and didn't care.
Despite my detachment from him now, it made me sad and wish I could have a 'do over' as my grandkids put it. I feel that by trying to support him I was hurting him. THAT's the part I have to work on on me.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Moved to new thread as well. Didn't know there was a limit. Look for me now as Half Way There
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
