Got the letter from STBXW's lawyer. First part p*ssed me off.
It had to do with the day I didn't call before going to STBXW's to pick up swimsuits and STBXW had a guy over helping her get the house ready for sale.
The girls saw him. I didn't know what to do. I stopped, backed the car up and took off. The girls were upset and grilling me who he was. I said he was probably a friend helping her get the house ready to sell and she likely met him through her best friend.
I then sent her a text telling her she'd have to explain since they saw him.
At no point did I say he was a boyfriend or act out in anger.
Well, in the letter, STBXW is saying I acted inappropriately that weekend and they want to know if I took the co-parenting class.
I laid out my version of events and that yes, I took the co-parenting class.
The rest of it:
STBXW has paid $2,500 of the $5,300 IRS bill. How? I'm assuming she got the money from her mom -- or even her older sister, who does not like me.
They say they are in agreement on the settlement amount -- does that mean I'm getting $11k in cash? It's not enough to bail me out totally. It's enough to keep me out of bankruptcy.
The house has been on the market a month with no interest whatsoever. It's overpriced by $14k because it's underwater. She wants me to put her on the second loan so that she can deal with the SBA -- it was a disaster loan. I responded I'll sign anything on that. Again, the only way she can pay that off is to get money from her mom or sister. She already redid her 401(k) loan to pull out an additional $6k.
The email from my attorney said once these are done there's not much left to decide so we should push hard to finish this.
That last paragraph put me in my usual funk -- getting this finished is the only way I can move on and for STBXW to stop blaming me for her unhappiness.
But it will also mean I'm no longer married and I haven't broken the co-dependency cycle. Every day, every single day, I remember at least two or three happy things from our life together. I still believe this can be fixed. Perhaps it's harder this week because I have the girls and this reminds me so much of summers past.
I'm still a mess.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
