Seperated.i'm a young couple. What to do?

[lovehurts2]

Hello everyone,

Im quite new to this site.I've been scouring the website last few of weeks and ordered the books (waiting for them to arrive).
I'm 27, married a year ago in Las Vegas, and only just 3
months ago had our Sydney ceremony/reception for our family and friends.

I hope to keep my SITCH not too long.(abrev. im just learning)

M and H met 6 1/2 years ago, it was a rocky road before we got engaged. It was always on and off.Constant arguing, mainly because of infidelty issues with OW ( he claimed it was always when we were on break). There must have been a turning point,and he suddenly didnt want to be a skirt-chaser no more, and realised he wanted to marry me.

After he proposed, i had to learn to forgive and forget. it took me a long time to get over the trust issue but i finally got there. The only thing was, i was so hurt when we were bf/gf , that i started to post my anger towards him, be bitchy, just to hurt him back (but not cheat), to make him feel how he did to me. I know it was wrong. two wrongs don't make a right. But he just took it all, knowing he did treat me bad in the beginning.
Been together for a while, we stil constantly fought.I was nagging alot, at home, in front of friends ( i know my mistake here, it was putting him down) but cause i was so use to doing this, it had became such a norm for me. It was hard to control. We lived at the same house ( i moved 2 hours away from friends and family to be with him), i come home late after work and i would already start nagging about the dishes etc. Our love life fizzled, we were always arguing, or too tired.The same old excuses.

Everytime we fought, we would sleep on it, and continue on our day as if nothing ever happened. So therefore, never getting to the real core of our problems. Hence cycle of same arguments.
I really do love my H, and i know im not perfect. I was so blinded to see he was getting hurt.

Then one day after i argued about the dishes, he said he wanted a break, he needed a week off from me.I went to stay at my family's house, hoping that after a week that we would miss me.At the end of the wk, he called and said he didn't miss me at all,he was stil angry and thought there is no point going on with relationship. He was just over it. He said he has been unhappy for a while, before the wedding.and he thought things would improve. Main topics for arguements, Nagging (housework),who is going to walk/feed dog, Me complaining about travelling to work and from ( he disagreed to move anywhere but his home town, lack of intimacy.

Crying lasted for days. My male friend called him to see if he was ok, and explained to him that we are married now, we have to try and work it out.to write a list of things we can compromise on and things we cant. At first H agreeded, but the day we were going to meet to swap the list, he called and said no. He again said no, i'm over it, its over, i don't want to do this no more, it's too late.

I'm currently living back with family with our dog, he hired a truck and took all my belongs and already splited the house goods ( which are in my familys garage).In the space of 2 weeks from the break, he had already took the liberty to move my stuff.i didn't want anything but he pretty much gave me everything except tv and fridge.He said he didnt want anything in the house to remind of Me.

I know that when someone wants a S, its because they have been thinking it for a while. It's so unfair, cause i feel we haven't gave the marriage a shot, we never sorted our problems just overlooking them, and the first time i know how unhappy he is,he has already made up his mind.

My heart is breaking, and i've read post that the best thing to do is GAL. I have been occuppying my time with friends, going dinner, movies etc. But its always constantly on my mind!I'm trying to keep myself looking good, dressing up, hair,gym but I'm just so depressed.We only had our sydney wedding 3 months ago, it was the whole deal. I feel like how can he mean his vows of unconditional love that he said 3 months ago, and now not want to be with me?
I asked him when he dropped off all my stuff, that if he was stil in love with me. He replied " only a little, not enough to get back together, if you need to hear it, too move on, then sorry I'm not in love with you no more" It was so brutal to hear, but i always believed that you can't make someone love you.

How can i save my marriage, when we don't live under the same roof?and there is really no chance of bumping into each other?

Im so hurt, and i wish i could turn back time. I keep thinking we won't be able to save the marriage, we fought from the start, and im thinking he believes if marriage didn't work why reconciling work. All his friends know our past,present and i'm sure they will be egging him to stay single.

I don't believe there was OW, but my friends have mentioned it was weird he wanted to move everything out straightaway.(He has insecurity issues, he is going bald.he shaved it to see how he looked, he hated it, so he's trying to grow his hair back at this stage, he's always felt insecure about this so that's why i don't believe for now there is someone else, but i guess he is young and attractive and would stil have no problem picking up)

I know i need to move on, but cause he was the one that left me, his moving on process has already started before mine, and it kills me to think of him with someone else.

help?advice on seperation when not living together?

I really want to hope and fight for this but i don't want to look like a loser holding back on memories.

Thank you for listening.