Puppy Advice

[steady]

i should add that it felt wrong because i felt guilty that during the entire time, i didn't think about my h or my m. that's what made me feel terrible. i should be thinking about my m and my h ..

I laugh every time someone shoulds on themselves. The fact is this: you didn't think about your M or H during the entire time. So that's good - you got a mental break from it all. An ego boost for yourself that you still 'got it', some smiles and laughs. Nothing wrong with it at all.

and i don't know if it's detachment or becoming a wayward. it's a very confusing thing for me.

but pdt's explanation is spot on.

It could just be distraction. Sometimes we need that in order to get a perspective on our life. These sitch's can become all consuming and terribly draining. We have to remember there's a life outside of all the drama.

Stop over-analyzing it. Do you think you deserve to go on a date or not? Is it something you want to do? It doesn't mean you have to get into a full blown R or anything else.

Stop trying to justify/un-justify. :-)