will only say that emotionally, you still sound a little "off your game," and I would tend to discourage it, as i would worry you'd be doing it for the wrong reasons. I ultimately DID decide to date -- after vociferously objecting to my wife's idea of doing it! -- after my wife and I briefly separated. And all it took was one date -- heck, one RUMOR of a date - -and my wife responded VERY forcefully, and we reconciled.
I decided only since we were separated, and only if I told my wife honestly of my intentions.
Be careful playing with fire ... cuz it WILL work.
Puppy
Puppy, My W found out I was on a dating site, she even had her friend read my profile. During our Meeting in May she brought it up, saying I was just doing it to "put it in her face".
I told her I did it for me not to have any affect on her.
I did remove my profile B/c I have been enjoying time with a good lady. This was part of me GALing.
My W is still as cold towards me today as she was 3 months ago.
I'm sure she knows I have gone out on dates but says nothing.
I think she has made her mind up and won't ever change.
My decisions don't involve what she may or may not think. I'm doing things b/c I want to do them.
Is there anything else that might get her attention?
It's funny how the LBS makes changes the WAS alsways wanted to see. I think it pisses them off to see us making changes and enjoying ourselves.
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