Quote: ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Set a boundary: how long will you wait for him to show you respect? Then, when he doesn't, it is your choice to experience that, not something he is imposing on you.... hmmmmm... do you see? ------------------------------------------------------------------------
Could you provide an example please...this is just not sinking in...
----------------- Hey Cathy---
Ack! This is so hard to explain. If you would simply totally detach, all would be clear, LOL
OK, you have a job you're unhappy in. It looks like there will be an opportunity for the perfect job at the perfect place to work. But, they don't know... the most they will say is well, we will consider you IF a position opens up, but we have no idea when that might be, and, we can't promise anything even in that case...
Now, victim mode: I am stuck in this job I hate and its all their fault for jerking me around... how can they do this to me?
Detached mode: I am unhappy in my job, but this is an opportunity worth waiting for. I will give it three months, in the meantime, I will do what I can to make this job work for me. I understand that this is my choice. They are not hurting me, I am keeping myself in this job for my own reasons. I don't base this choice on unreasonable expectations of them, but on what makes sense for me now....
Ughhhhh. Does that help? It is so hard to explain...
