If you're planning on keeping it a secret from your husband, then it's not the right thing.
my h doesn't care about me. i could get run over by a bus and it wouldn't matter to him. there is no "no dating" clause in our separation agreement.
when he dropped the d-bomb, i asked if it was okay for me to date. i don't remember word for word what he said but it was something along the lines of "i would be hurt but i wouldn't stop you if it made you happy." this is from someone who was adamant that a d was the only solution.
yeeeesh .. i sound like a wayward justifying. no good can come of this. i already said it myself. i don't want to lead someone on. esp if i know he's looking for a long term relationship and i'm not ready or looking for one.
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Everything you've said about how it's gotten to where it is, if you turn it around, sounds like a wayward spouse trying to justify an EA with the whole "We're just friends!" thing.
that's why it feels so wrong.
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I think you already know the answer to this, MIL.
yes. why do some give me the advice to move on and find someone who will treat me right? or dump the h and date others? no, i'm not trying to say it's okay .. but what's the premise behind it and when is it okay to date others but still be db-ing?
