You are defining a healthy marriage... if he won't even meet you on what's healthy for the both of you...
His history alone should warrant him deferring to YOUR judgement and he should be keeping his mouth shut...
Two affairs in how long a time frame? He really doens't have ANY credibilty here right now...
If YOU approach him as if he's diong you a favour or as if you are ASKING him to ACT like an ADULT you will be met with childishness every time.
Give him time to read the text before pushing harder...
Okay. I will give him time to read through the book. Like I said, he seemed very interested after the passages I had him read (which pretty much all illustrated points I was trying to make to him that he wasn't quite hearing). And I even noticed him better embrace some of the ideas (like cutting off the OW) after I showed him what the book said about it.
But, I think I need to give myself an internal deadline for when I will start pushing harder again. I fear that if we lose inertia, it'll get buried under the rug and we'll be constantly tripping over that bulge until it eventually worms its way out again. It's basically what we did after the last affair (which was 10 years ago), and that worked about as well as putting butter on a burn!
Me: 29 Him: 30 Married: 2 years Together: 13 years No kids Bomb: 6/4/10 Started MC: 7/16/10
