You have a united front in dealing with others; a co-constructed story about the meaning of the infidelity and a shared vision of monogamy
You think him running to mommy and daddy and his buddies for false support to embarass you about how unsafe YOU FEEL fits that description above?
He hasn't started reading it yet. I just gave it to him yesterday morning (I finished reading it on Wednesday). I have shown him a few passages from the book though, which he read and seemed open/amenable to. He's been operating in the manner he thinks is good (based on what makes HIM feel good), but clearly it hasn't been truly "good", or he wouldn't have had TWO affairs (let alone one).
I agree with you though -- and I pointed out to him when he told me about his convo with his parents that they were A) incorrect and B) clearly uninformed/uneducated and C) biased, no matter how "well-meaning" they were. I don't think he really talks to them about it anymore.
So... I suppose the answer is that I need to draw the hard lines in the sand, and work to get him to meet me there. But if, ultimately, he won't do it then I may have to consider moving on?
Me: 29 Him: 30 Married: 2 years Together: 13 years No kids Bomb: 6/4/10 Started MC: 7/16/10
