Quote: Ummmmm.... This seems to be mostly about managing him... walking on eggshells.... he will feel it , you know.... He will feel you all entangled in his emotions, trying to manage him... Why not just be straighforward.
An AHA moment for me...(not a DUH moment, thankfully!)...h used to tell me that he felt as though I was so carefully choosing my words to get some desired response out of him...I truly thought that I was doing it out of "good" -- not wanting to rile him up, not wanting to say the wrong thing, etc.
Truth be told, if I "own" my feelings and am NOT trying to control him...if I'm honest with myself and don't have ulterior motives...I bet he won't feel controlled...
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
