Reality is yes much patience is needed with horses if you want to get good results. Many people think they can whip and spur and might even get a horse to ride but in the long run there's a good chance they'll get bucked off when they're not expecting it. I don't use whips or spurs, I bring out the best in my horses by convincing them to be my partner and work with me to get the job done. That does sound a lot like DBing, yes? Not every horse responds the same way, not every spouse responds the same way.
The other thing is I enjoy so much of my life at this point that the rough spots with H are minute now. I wish it were better faster, but it's not where I choose to focus my energy. Granted that it took me years to get to this stage, but here is where I am.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
