Just make sure he understands that if he refuses to go that he is communicating to you
I am unwilling to work on my marriage. I am unwilling to complete my 50% of the work to repair any harm or damage I may have done thus far. By not going I am and will be allowing my marriage to end due to my neglect.
Make sure he understands that THIS is the MESSAGE he SENDS when he refuses to go.
That's good. I'm copying that and putting it in my phone where it's handy in case I need it.
