Very detailed analysis of all the little battles in your M. Its funny how far it got out of wack, in just about every section of the marriage.
Its almost as if it where a series of negotations where you lose your rights, and she gets something for nothing, or stops providing.
Coming out of the doormat phase with a WAS is interesting. Its interesting how it was pointed out that EVERY body else was afforded a common level of respect and courtesy, JUST NOT YOU. I don't think its accidental, I believe it is truly representative of how the WAS see's the world. Such a shame for them to suffer such a delusion. The question is, how do you prevent someone from disrespecting you, who is simply acting as they feel?
I also like how you pointed out that a WAS does not see "button pushing" as a problem, but if you defend yourself - you are being agressive and intimidating. Some of those button pushes make you feel angry, make you feel crazy, feel disrespected and over and over again like less of a man if you are a man.
I also agree with you that after a certain point that the BS and games do not even hurt anymore. It makes you look at the WAS as someone who is not in touch with reality, and the actions are not attractive at all.
Anyway have a good weekend, I would like your marriage to re-compose itself to a more mutually satisfying format, but the reality for many of us here is we are in a limbo till we decide to leave.
Like it was said before "Lose the fear", "Lose the feer of losing the WAS" and all will be well.
