irish, His describing you in that 1st paragraph is almost my wife to a T. I have loved my wife deeply with unconditional love all the years I have been married. Could not complain at all. Did we have disagreements? Sure. I think that is healthy. Did we have anything that would stew for days or weeks. Nope. Not for me at least. Yes she was controlling but until the MLC hit, I was happy. I told people I was happy. She told people she was happy. MLC just grabs all the bad and throws it out in front. I see my wife in all of the paragraphs about himself. She could have wrote that all the way to the wife deserves better than me. That is the alien I have. And I think my wife is far from done with this. She has to face herself and that will be a while. I am sorry that I am giving it to you this way, but gee, whatever happened to just loving someone for the wonderful partner they are. It is great to work on those things you mentioned, but they better be for you. He sounds so selfish in those words, it just says MLC over and over to me again. People have such high expectations of others it is so unhealthy for all involved. I am sorry if I am off on this but this is the way I feel for you right now.
