I dont know how you know so much, but i am glad you are keeping up with my exteremly frequent posts. Since I have just agreed and let her vent, she starts texting me pics of the kids eating ice cream. I reply with how good that looks right now. So she is being friendly and joking again, our D3 gave herself a hicky on her arm, W sent a pic of it with an OMG.
Seems things do difuse when I do not engage in her tantrums. I just have to keep up with the agreeing and doing what I can. At some point I do not agree with what she says, the part about being scared of me when she sleeps, I think that is ridiculous I have never laid a hand on her, actually have let he pound on me physically and took it. If she was that scared she would leave. I guess thats why her family calls her Drama Mama.