All the people who think nothing is wrong weren't the ones cheated on... YOU WERE.. their input is both uneducated and inexperienced.
Ask ANYONE who was cheated on if its "safe" and they till tell you its NOT... I don't care how many "votes" he collects... He's NOT going to prove this point.
Tell him to keep reading then because he doesn't "get it" yet.
After an affair there is some education that's necessary and he clearly has'nt embraced that yet.
Shirley Glass has made the point very clear. Penny's monthly list is based on Glass' work..
If your H is willing to risk his marriage in order to chit chat privately with other women then you have to decide if YOU are willing to live in a marriage with a man who is willing to roll dice with his marriage.
Next time he accuses you of being controlling you say this :
STOP calling ME controlling. YOU LIED. Our marriage was VIOLATED. YOU need to OWN that and REPAIR that damage and STOP making excuses.
When YOU lie, when YOU violate a marriage, when YOU cheat and HIDE your hurtful behavior like you did YOU CONTROLLED OUR MARRIAGE into a DITCH
YOu are the one who has controlled this marriage for the worse by your choices. I am doing the work of TOLERATING your BETRAYAL. Do NOT call ME controlling.
I am PROTECTING this marriage from you driving it OUT of control AGAIN.
When YOU start protecting this marriage as MUCH as I DO, maybe I won't HAVE to work so hard protecting it and we can do it 50 - 50. As long as YOU insist on PUSHING it into risky areas I have to work TWICE as hard to PROTECT IT.
And I am NOT going to do that for the rest of my life.
You had better start taking ownership for the safety of this marriage VERY SOON if you want ME to TRUST YOU again because FIGHTING on THIS POINT is NOT motivating an OUNCE of trust in me that this marriage is SAFE.
