How do I save my marriage to husband in MLC?

[ericmsant2]

RLay

You are NOT alone! It may seem that way NOW…but NOW…is not the FUTURE.

My family and friends are distant and few because of what my situation was.

Well then those friends and family are the ones that YOU do not need right now. What you need is people in YOUR life that are positive. People that have compassion. That can and WILL say the things that you need to hear. You may not always want to hear them but YOU must listen YOU must be open.

If people are telling you to leave your H…telling you to stop the abuse, then I agree for the most part. Read Cat’s latest response. The first thing you need to do is gain your strength. Gain your sense of self and HEAL. How do you do this? You do this by taking the biggest STEP of your life, which is to STOP the CYCLE of abuse in your R. You do this by not putting yourself in a position to allow this abuse. You do this by totally DETACHING from your H.

Is it scary? Yep…Not as scary though of putting your story on these boards for everyone to see.

RLay – you may not know this right now…you may not see it right now….BUT once you realize what has been done to YOU – you are going to get very, very angry. LET this anger push you FORWARD. Let it out….. YOU have to experience the anger to Heal sweetie…ya do.

So how do you deal with the loneliness?
- Go on line and figure out what is wrong with your dryer.
- Go to a local church and help someone else
- Hit these boards EVERY F*in Day
- Go for a walk with the kids
- Find things to do that do not cost money with the kids
- Get a dog or a cat
- Write down the things that you are feeling
- Dance around the house with some tunes’ blasting

Now…here is what I want you to do first…

- Post all of your fears
- Post some of the things that your H did to you
- Post what you plan to do tomorrow

Introduce all of us to RLay….Your not alone sweetie…not alone…not for a sec….

God Bless,
Eric