My husband's emotional affair

[justpeachy]

Things have seemed better recently. He hasn't been in communication with OW (or, if he has, he's gone really deep). We started seeing an MC. We've also been communicating a lot better -- a lot more kindly and compassionately.

Within a few days of my last post (after we exchanged passwords and purged her information), DH started doing things I had been asking from him for years! He started text messaging me randomly throughout the day (something he did with OW, but rarely with me), and this has continued almost daily since. When I'd get home from work, he was more attentive and greeted me more quickly/affectionately. He showed serious interest in reading "Not Just Friends" after I was done with it (something he never would have done before). He has sought out spending more time with me in the evenings and on the weekends. He has been kinder and more loving towards me....

Then earlier this week he texted me out of the blue saying: "I think I'm starting to feel happier. I'm looking forward to spending time with you on the cruise." (we booked a cruise for our anniversary earlier this year, and we leave in a week.) And then he said "I just feel better about us now. It's an amazing feeling, but I'm finally starting to consider our future together more seriously".

I know we have a long ways to go towards fixing things. And ultimately he's going to need to do something about my fear that this will happen again before I can really feel safe and secure in my marriage, and be able to truly trust him again. But, I'm feeling more hopeful right now that we may be on the right path. I'm also currently reading "Divorce Busting" and trying to implement its ideas, in the hopes that I can effect greater positive change and maintain what we already have done.