Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Rob, I don’t fault her. I know that’s all she can see right now. I haven’t said anything to her about the money in the account just for the reason you stated…it gives her security right now. I definitely understand what you’re saying that we remember the negative things and where she is with that.

I do understand and it makes sense to me that she left because she felt she needed to do this to survive. Given where I was I don’t blame her. Trust seems so difficult to earn back. I don’t think she will want to try until/if she can regain some trust that I will make her feel secure. I have a lot of work to do. I hope that I will be able to regain her trust. A big part of what I’m trying to work on is not be so controlling anymore. With all of the changes I have made so far, this is probably one that I still need to work on.

We haven’t filed our taxes yet. My wife had our accountant file an extension back in April. My W wasn’t sure if she wanted to file jointly or individually. We get money back if we file jointly. When we spoke this week she mentioned that she would file jointly if I signed an agreement for how the tax return was distributed. This is another case where I will sign that agreement too…do the right thing. She was definitely upset (no trust in me) when she talked about me not signing the commission agreement and something for the taxes although she never mentioned anything about the taxes, and that agreement, until this week.

I definitely didn’t think you were bashing me. I know you are helping me. Thank you for taking the time to write me such helpful posts. I read them several times before I respond so that I can really think about what you’re saying.

Sometimes it's difficult to see the other person's point of view, you have to open your eyes to the possibility that another point of view looking at the exact same situation will yield an entirely different perception of reality. That's the case with you and your wife right now.

I thought this was wonderfully stated Rob.