I feel good today, I forgot to tell you guys last night after I left an anger management meeting I pulled up to a 7-11 to get something to drink. A few "bangers" were hanging out with their crown vic on 22's. The mood I was in I was still in my workout stuff, cut up shirt and Gaspari Fatigues, I just started to think these guys are staring at me up and down, these guys have no idea what mood im in, my Glock is under the seat and my badge is on my visor, I kept cool and just had a look on my face, you guys just dont know what kinda day I have had, dont even try it. Felt like a modern day dirty harry a bit. But I controlled myself and got my Big GUlp!!!
Rob why do I constantly replay in my head " its over, her words in her journal" I feel I do this to make the blow less painful. I know they are her feelings at the time she wrote it, Just two weeks ago she was making subtle advances to rub my neck or just touch me and I blew her off. I hate the fact I dont see things right in front of me until its too late. But I will have agood weekend, had to throw that in.
her feelings are her feelings right now, she felt differently about you before, I'm sure at one point she thought she couldn't live with out you, love you more than anything and now her feelings change.
What does that tell you?
Feelings change, they are not static, they're dynamic.
So if feelings can change, is it possible feelings can change again.
Damn right they can.
So don't be too obsessed with what she wrote in her journal, she is following her feelings, she's emotional creature, she's in love with her feelings, they guide her with everything she does so just let them, you can't stop those feelings anyways so all you can do with her feelings is... AGREE WITH THEM. Just like I've been mentioning to you to help squash those arguments, agree with her feelings.
Why agree with her feelings? Because you start doing this enough times you're going to get on the good side of those feelings, she's going to associate you with agreeing with her feelings instead of being against them. And then... .she will associate her good feelings with you. It's very possible her feelings will change about you, she'll feel good about you but you have to do the things that facilitate that change.
Is this guaranteed to work? No, no guarantees in life.
But it's better than grovelling, begging, pleading, gift buying, jumping through hoops and crawling into a dark corner and lying in a fetal position sucking your thumb - mind you, that's just my opinion.
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gaspari fatigues
Are you referring to Rich Gaspari - back in the day Mr.Olympia runner up (late 80s, early 90s), man that guy was awesome, I was a huge fan of his.
....I kept cool and just had a look on my face, you guys just dont know what kinda day I have had, dont even try it. Felt like a modern day dirty harry a bit. But I controlled myself and got my Big GUlp!!!
W just sent me a text asking me " why is it so hard for you to be nice and cordial to me? WTF i replied "what now? she wrote back Nothing.... just a general question. Sorry.
Someone shoot me already she is a hot mess.... acting happy but deep down she is a mess.
ANd yes Rob my brother did compete at one point and is in the body building industry so he gets me a lot of free stuff. Those fatigues are like 100 bucks so I get hand me downs, tee hee.
So I wrote her back and just typed I understand. thats it.
Understand wut? Ii have to live with u and sometimes just looking at me sets u off. Wut is it about me u hate so much that u have to make life so miserable?
This was her response to my reply "I understand" I have not repsonded back don't really know what to type without going off on her.
W just sent me a text asking me " why is it so hard for you to be nice and cordial to me? WTF i replied "what now? she wrote back Nothing.... just a general question. Sorry.
Someone shoot me already she is a hot mess.... acting happy but deep down she is a mess.
I did not reply WTF like it reads, ooppsss
No shooting required.
She may be a hot mess.
Acting happy..... hmmmm... I think I remember telling you to do that, she is putting on a show, you can put one on too, it will be the battle of who can be the happiest, the person who wins.... the happiest person of course ;-)
Yes I'm sure her text was a general question.
Reply to it, "I was thinking about what you just texted, I'm sure it looks that way from time to time that I'm not the nicest and most cordial person in the world, I know I haven't been the nicest person, I think sometimes I let the outside world get to me too much, I know it's not a good thing, maybe I let my job affect too much also and that's probably a poor excuse too."
Understand wut? Ii have to live with u and sometimes just looking at me sets u off. Wut is it about me u hate so much that u have to make life so miserable?
This was her response to my reply "I understand" I have not repsonded back don't really know what to type without going off on her.
Don't go "off" on her, remember she expects you to fight, I told you that already, she's looking to fight with someone, so just agree with her feelings, use the response I provided in the previous post and leave it at that.
