UGH...Just got off the phone with my Dad. He is not a man of many words. He asked about the kids as usual and about H. Before we hung up he said, "Tell the kids I love them and H too. So proud of you all."
Do you know how hard that was to hear? If he only knew... He loves H like a son. It hit me that it is going to be harder for me to tell my Dad than anyone about all of this should next weekend not bode well and I have to tell H to leave. Even harder than the kids? Yes, believe it or not - because Dad is up there and not been in the greatest health and Mom is even worse, esp. emotionally right now. We have had 3 very difficult deaths in our family in the last year! She is beyond depressed over that and some other family situations. I'm thankful we don't live close so they don't have to know what's up with me/H right away.
Now, you might think I should tell them - that it would be good. Let me tell you, it does not work that way in this case. When (hopefully "if") I have to tell my parents, it will make things so much worse for me. My mom is a basketcase and I will have to be the one to console her. It will be a nightmare, trust me. And Dad will be hurt to no end. He thinks so highly of H! My dad is the only read Dad in H's life, quite frankly.
Should I tell H that Dad called and said to tell him he loves him? My dad may be the only person H truly would feel accountable to. He's already convinced the kids, because of their ages, will be fine with D. He has to know that it will break my dad's heart, and he thinks highly of my dad. Maybe that little reminder wouldn't hurt but it could also be seen as manipulating/pursuing to make an issue of telling him.
