At the risk of coming across as a mediator here I agree with both of you to some extent.
First, the decision to stand or not to stand for a M is a very personal one.
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A person can stand for the M, even one like this, because strength is gained through standing, while doing the work to strengthen themselves.
I agree 100% with this quote. Specifically the strengthening oneself. For me personally, standing allowed me to get my feet under me. To gain a better sense of self thus allowing me to look at the M in a much more sound way.
Punkin said…
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she needs to stand for herself, her children, her family.
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Can he get serious help? Yes. WILL he? Only God knows that one,
I agree with these as well Punkin…Yes only God knows BUT it is possible. I was not an abusive H. I was though an emotionally unavailable one and one that neglected my W. Right now, I am sure she feels that I would never change or that only God knows if I could. I am here to tell you that I have and did. So….did she make the right choice to no longer stand? Did she make the right choice to move forward into the arms of another? Only God knows. Personally, she did what she needed to do. I did what I needed to to. I often wonder…what WOULD have happened had she…..
Stood for HERSELF AND the M.
So to RLay I say this….DO WHAT YOU need to DO for YOU. Standing for YOURSELF is the most important thing that you can do RIGHT NOW. Standing for YOUR…well that is YOUR CALL. The only thing I can say to you is this……In all cases LOVE. Just remember that LOVE does not mean to allow yourself or your kids to be a punching bag. You can LOVE from a distance….it is called DETACH.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
