I having trouble keeping things compartmentalized with my wife. As we move closer to separation she seems to have trouble making the smallest decisions. For example, she thought it would be good to get a credit card with just her on the account, since it'll be harder when she's single. She spent hours agonizing over it.
We've got a lot to do before we can separate:
1. Get rid of our golden retriever 2. Ready the house for the market 3. Sell the house 4. Find apartments 5. Move out
I left out the toughest task, telling our daughters.
Right now, I'm her friend, just that. She's not moving forward very much, just seems stuck. I don't want to read anything into her delays though. My pastor said that since my W is having trouble with making big decisions and moving on, that I might have to be the one to file. I said I couldn't, I can't break my vows. The only thing that would change my mind towards this would be infidelity.
So do I just let things go at her pace or be more assertive about things? I'm second guessing myself, but I think that if there's any hope for reconciliation down the road, it'll come after our separation, not because we're living in the same residence.
