You have to remember Cd that your wife has been practicing the phony image game for how many months now?
She's gotten quite good at appearances I am sure... This was just another performance.
And another thing she may be experiencing right now is shock. You likely earned a point of respect tonight. She likely wasn't expecting that of you... so you scored well on that end.
Proud? No... I think addicted is a better word to describe what you confronted tonight. You didn't address her CD you were talking to her addiction.
Addictions have a life and character all their own : arrogant, selfish, merciless, and shallow... That's what you faced down tonight.
The thing about addictions is that while they can have a powerful hold on their victim they are ignorant of how powerful reality can be... Addictions are completely closed off from and out of touch with the world around them.
You just have to rally that world together and bring it down on both of their heads with full force.
I always tell people, don't compare your insides to their outsides. People can definitely put on a great mask. Weren't you when you had the talk? All turmoil on the inside but a semblance of calmness on the outside.
I believe you did put a shock into her.
The addiction runs across a whole gamut of subjects. My W is addicted to the fantasy she thinks is her future; addicted to getting away from me; addicted to alcohol.
Allen is spot on with the addiction taking over a person. I have seen it so many times, and lived it myself. It's a program that runs and is not based in reality at all. That's why people have to hit a bottom in order to wake up. If they don't, the bottom becomes deeper and deeper and they lose more and more.
Life will keep feeding them opportunities to wake up, successively getting more and more painful until they lose everything - last stop is usual jail, dead, mental institution.
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