Ok, finally have a little time. I read everything over A couple of times.
First off, MP, I agree totally that setting the end of our agreed 6 sessions as a deadline is not what I intended. Actually I came to that on the way there. I did put out my array of concerns and goals, but when I mentioned that, I took a softer stance. I just saiD that I intend to abide by her wishes not to discuss R outside of that setting. So if there was stuff she wanted to address, she'd have to either get it done in that time frame, or change her position.
Also, I did a lot of research on MC before I chose one. I intentionally picked an LMFT for the required training and supervised clinical time working w/ couples. Then made damn sure that he was pro-marriage. I had my eyes open going in and tried to avoid the pitfalls of MC. In retrospect, had I known about db before hand, I probably would have forgone MC, but all in all I'm satisfied with the guy.
LSG, whatever fear I have is rapidly diminishing. And I intend to keep standing up for myself.
Dan, you freaking kill me. The "can't divorce me twice" thing is hilarious. I think I'm gonna make that my tag line. Of course, I stopped laughing when I read TimeHeals and LongShanks. There's nothing funny about that situation. TH, I hope it doesn't come to that.
TechGuy, welcome to my circus. Thanks for the advice. I am getting stronger everyday.
I'm really tired. Tomorrow should be quieter at work. I need to get some things from MC off my chest.
Peace all
Its funny but not funny. Thing about it if you know how serious it is, you can laugh about it, and laugh at the spouse for thinking like that. Once you get to this stage there is no DB'ing anymore. Its effectively over. Perhaps later in life this person may come to discover the error of their ways, and maybe want to try again at it, most likely not... The thing we are all examining is it worth it to deal with someone who found us so utterly lacking in value to do us the way they did.
Have a good and fun weekend everybody, make sure you have a good time.
