My initial plan was to go NC, then wait her out for as long as it took. However, at this point I am strongly considering going ahead and filing. Worst (best?) case scenario is that we get a divorce and then get back into a R later on. If that happens, I think having a new marriage would be good anyway for symbolic reasons. Our old marriage is dead and gone. Any new R would be a new beginning and involve the building of a new, better relationship between the two of us.
I can understand the thought, L4S, but really, is that all the "fight" you have in you? How long have you really been at this?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those "standing for 2 years" guys, TRUST me. There does come a time when you have to file, for your own legal and financial protection, for your own emotional health, and also to stand for holiness in your marriage. I filed after about two months, which is far quicker than most, so I'm right there with you on your thinking. But I do think you should keep DBing her awhile longer.
