I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Romeo, thanks for your comments! Well he moved in for me, like directly to my face, probably just for a smooch which isn't a big deal but to me but I felt like I needed some more time with him before I kissed him!

So a couple more observations about what I learned from the date....
he said that his wife started to have back problems, then got depressed and then kind of gave up. He said she wasn't adventurous...when I asked him if he meant like doing outdoor activities such as ziplining, he said no, more like trying new foods, going to different places, being up for anything.

Hmm. This made me think of the whole "men looking for playmates" idea I read somewhere. It made me reflect on my marriage and how ACTUALLY I was open to new things and being adventurous but just not with outdoor activities. Of course in 2008 I started to change that, but OW was very open to outdoor activities.

Then I asked him why he was dating- he said for entertainment. Aha! He was also rediscovering his interests and identity after 19 years of marriage. Thank goodness he was just looking for fun, although he also came right out and said men choose who they would date by whether or not they would f%$# them!!! I laughed at his honesty and bluntness! He said it was very simple. He said it takes 2 seconds to know. But when I asked how they fall for a woman he said that was separate and then didn't get into it, lol!

Now I also talked to Rugby some more and we are going out next Tuesday. more on that convo in a few...