Never seen the crisis starts at BD. Always say that it happened way before. That is when her traumatic event occurred. Doc says that when they file, they have been thinking/unhappy for almost 2 years. My wife never let me know she was unhappy. In fact, I was bending over backward for her. If the question is did I know she was overwhelmed with responsibilities? With work and new home new job position and increased stress? Absolutely. I was overwhelmed too. I recognized that and did my best to keep things sane. I also reminded her many times that we taken on a lot here so remember all the blessings we do have. The friends and neighbors were in awe on the all the accomplishments in such a short time. Taylor, is it not funny how one day I am telling you to hang in there and YOU will be happy finding YOU. Now you are telling me I will be alright. Yes I will. I am sick for my young kids. They don't deserve this. They are extremely precious to me and will help me forget about my pain by the joy they give me in my life. So Taylor, if you were tight with your H, and this is MLC, we both have to be extremely patient. 12-15 years? I think not. Get on with our lives for ourselves? You and I have no choice. We both want to fix it now or see some indication that the situation is improving. We know we can't fix this. MWD says be supportive and understanding etc. That makes a lot of sense. Then you are the lighthouse in the fog. I clearly see that with my wife. MWD also says this is not something that you did wrong, it is their journey. The childhood issues are unmistakable. The behavior is textbook. The depression is there. The confusion is there. The thrown out values and morals are there. I don't mean to hijack your thread and I feel bad about that so I will start my own. I also don't want to just post to you with Be the best Taylor, Find things you enjoy, etc.,etc. Then I am not being real to you. Those things are crucial and important and are going to get you through this but when you write stuff like this: "It's hard to know how long any of these MLC people will be in it. Sometimes I even wonder if MLC is just an excuse to cheat on your spouse..and keep doing it because they're "Sick" or "can't help it". Ba-loney." I can relate. You would not be human if this stuff did not cross your mind. I read your posts and I get a feel for what you write and it kind of resonates with me and I feel your pain. Tough to just ignore it isn't it? We are both getting an education here, just didn't know we would have to do a lab everyday.
