"Radio I don't know what you wanted to accomplish with this communication but to me it looks like you re trying to impose your will on her and control the situation."
I'm not totally confident of what I was trying to accomplish either. My wife certainly could have interpreted the e-mail as a form of control. I guess I was mostly just trying to get a few things out of my system so I don't build resentment inside myself. Re-reading the e-mail I can totally see how she might interpret it's message in a negative way.
Reality is, my wife has not yet directly acknowledged the e-mail I sent her, nor reacted to it one way or another. She came back from China last Friday, still wearing her wedding ring every day. I know I shouldn't "read" into things too much but, to me, seeing her still wearing the ring after the trip is significant. I just feel that, if she was 'truly' hell bent on taking the EA to another level with DJ, and if she DID have sex with him while in China, she would return with anger, projecting guilt, and definitely not wearing her ring; especially when I essentially drew a line with her in the e-mail I sent her. She may have been 'indifferent' at one point in time throughout this EA/MLC mess. My gut tells me she's hanging on to the marriage but is uncertain and confused on how to move forward (i.e. come to complete terms with her decisions, admit her mistakes, and put in the difficult work it will take to mend our marriage). I could be completely wrong. I just feel the ring is a very telling sign of where her heart and mind lies at this point in time. I pray my instincts are correct. Anyhow, thanks for reading. If you all have any feedback, I'd certaily appreciate it. Thanks.
