i think the crisis starts way before the bomb is dropped if that is what BD means.
Yes the whole crisis does start prior to BD(Bomb drop), however that is the start of replay. Measurements are usually taken from that point. It is really not a useful discussion to try to gage time when spouse is in replay. Just know that you have a longggggggg time to go. One of the things that the LBS MUST learn is to have NO EXPECTATIONS. By trying to gage how much time you have left, you are breaking one of the rules, You are having expectations. So when we beat you over the head about some of this stuff, it is because we are trying to teach you some of the tools the you need overcome this long process. Your primary tool is detachment. That must be learned in order to survive. Again we keep telling you to do this to try to give you the resources to walk down this path.
