Ok, finally have a little time. I read everything over A couple of times.
First off, MP, I agree totally that setting the end of our agreed 6 sessions as a deadline is not what I intended. Actually I came to that on the way there. I did put out my array of concerns and goals, but when I mentioned that, I took a softer stance. I just saiD that I intend to abide by her wishes not to discuss R outside of that setting. So if there was stuff she wanted to address, she'd have to either get it done in that time frame, or change her position.
Also, I did a lot of research on MC before I chose one. I intentionally picked an LMFT for the required training and supervised clinical time working w/ couples. Then made damn sure that he was pro-marriage. I had my eyes open going in and tried to avoid the pitfalls of MC. In retrospect, had I known about db before hand, I probably would have forgone MC, but all in all I'm satisfied with the guy.
LSG, whatever fear I have is rapidly diminishing. And I intend to keep standing up for myself.
Dan, you freaking kill me. The "can't divorce me twice" thing is hilarious. I think I'm gonna make that my tag line. Of course, I stopped laughing when I read TimeHeals and LongShanks. There's nothing funny about that situation. TH, I hope it doesn't come to that.
TechGuy, welcome to my circus. Thanks for the advice. I am getting stronger everyday.
I'm really tired. Tomorrow should be quieter at work. I need to get some things from MC off my chest.
Peace all
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs