I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Just came back from my date with zipliner. He greeted me with a hug and then we sat down outside and ordered a beer. I still found him attractive, thank goodness, because I was worried that maybe I just wanted to go out with him because I knew him, you know?

So at first the conversation was a little formulaic and stilted but I sensed he was nervous so I tried to put him at ease. Then we started jumping around with different conversation topics... he has the kids 5 days per week! Is the primary caregiver! I was touched by that!

BUT. I got the sense he believes in the "soulmate" theory...he didn't argue with me when I said that we are able to be with different people. That concerned me!

So then I saw we had similiar interests, he was truly a dedicated, loving dad! And that is sooooo huge to me! Another good dad! I am so glad there are so many out there! (Like on the DB forum, too!)

We talked about honesty and he said he was married 19 years, she started checking out...we didn't get into details. He said at our age+ we know to date a bunch of people and to see who we mesh with.

He asked me "have you dated someone that you had that 'zing' with and you turn into a 6th grader? Like instant chemistry?" WELL WHAT WAS I SUPPOSED TO SAY? YES!! ZOOBREW! But I said "not really...I'm just getting out there. From my previous dating experience in my 20s, I have learned that it is important to give people a 2nd date if there is some connection on the first date!"

So by the end, we both said let's meet again and he said "I feel a connection, too!" even though I didn't say those exact words so he went to (I swear) kiss me although we had been together for 90 minutes. He got my cheek. I said 'it's the first date...'

ANd that was that! Oh boy. I hope I didn't lead him on! The truth is that yes, he was attractive (I refuse to go on a date with someone I don't find physically attractive) and we had a pleasant conversation. But if he is thinking WOW, I am not! I am thinking "let's go out again and see how it goes!" and am curious about my 2nd date with zoobrew!

At least he totally was honest! I wasn't totally, though! But come on, what would I really say? You know?