Came down from pc, W started talking to me about things, no R talk. She brought up the drinking, told her I don't think I'm an alcoholic. Did I start abusing or using it to escape stress? Yes but after some meetings and some serious seasoned AA peeps told me I am not one, I'm not going to let the W tell me I am. I agreed with W to the fact I was abusing it and left it at that. She then asked me if I have figured out why I pick things to get angry at her about? I told her I don't know why, I know I do it, but don't know why, and that is something I am working on. So basically I did some good dbing I think. I was not overdoing it, but I was not defensive or argumentative with her.
She then asked if I cancelled her gym membership, told her no. She then said well I can't afford it. I siad I will cancel it as soon as I can, did not offer to cover it or react in a way that I would normally like, so you are preparing everything separate? I am making myself as "as if" which is not easy for me. She did not bring up trip to denver again, she seems very interested in my progress working on myself. She did not bring up earlier email, neither did I. I am going to let things be. Defuse and detach.
At some point I will need to bring up that I am planning on going to my 20 year reunion in CA in september. Should be interesting how that goes over. So for a night that I could have let go to a mess turned out peaceful. Told her I was also going to sign S up for karate and that I would do lessons with him to make it more fun for him. She asked who would pay for it? Told her I would figure it out. My finances will start to be mine hers are hers we will split house bills going forward.
