And now I can say with total confidence that this dates back "at minimum" April.
And I agree about the women and "done"
How many times have I had to tell a buddy that "Dude, what you don't get is she broke up with you 6 months ago. She is already over you. She just told YOU yesterday." With me, it was December. New boyfriend in April. THEN I get the ILYBINILWY.
An opportunity to SHOW character; not be disrespected and essentially unacnowledged.
No defense; no deflection; no anger; no guilt. Nothing but asking for details of the divorce and delaying my progress for cutting some debt.
"SOMEBODY" is coaching. She is WAY to cautious and almost organized.
I tend to agree. She may also be one of the 15-20% or so I call "Hell-bent." They run away from the marriage as fast as they can, with nary a look back. Determined and stubborn as hell, and they're virtually impossible to DB. My friend Hoosiermama's husband was like that.
"SOMEBODY" is coaching. She is WAY to cautious and almost organized.
You know her better than anyone, CD. So what would throw her off her equilibrium? What would be the LAST thing she would expect from you at this point?
LEADING!! PUSHING!! CONTROL!! No emotion from me; no fear; no remorse; NO REGRET. ME MOVING ON AND HAPPY!! REALLY HAPPY. CALLA WANTING DADDY!!
And the discovery that she leaves with a debt.
And her not getting at least joint custody of D. But I don't have the dough for that money pit. Custody battles are only good for attorneys. THEY always win.
The only thing your wife has proven tonight is that she can table a game well...
You have given her cause to worry... Don't expect her to SHOW you that... SOME fall apart and worry or lie or even promise to change.. .Some try to match you glare for glare...
She'll break CD... this was just the first cannon blast at the wall...
It takes time to break that wall down.. And you have plenty of ammunition
I tend to agree. She may also be one of the 15-20% or so I call "Hell-bent." They run away from the marriage as fast as they can, with nary a look back. Determined and stubborn as hell, and they're virtually impossible to DB. My friend Hoosiermama's husband was like that.
I would put my wife in that category as well. Although no one has mentioned that to me on here, when I saw what you wrote Puppy I am definitely thinking that is the case.
Be careful CD, these people can suck the life out of you, and ruin your day everyday. I'm NOT being negative, but Puppy has struck a chord here.
But Allen and Puppy have seem to over some the Hellbent, so it IS possible. You just have to be as bad ass and hardcore as them.
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
Never having done this before I was perhaps expecting too much. Or at least more than nothing.
But this WAS only the first shot.
More exposure-revealing the depth and repetitiveness of their lies. ANd to more people.
Creating pressure on the A with exposure
Time works against the A. The novelty wears out. The foundation is weak.
Pushing the Agreement. She'll think "I'm almost out". It'll be "You're broke" It's for MY protection not her "out" Ties her hands and gives a reality check of the future.
Glad that wasn't my "big" show. I have more work and study to do.
You have to remember Cd that your wife has been practicing the phony image game for how many months now?
She's gotten quite good at appearances I am sure... This was just another performance.
And another thing she may be experiencing right now is shock. You likely earned a point of respect tonight. She likely wasn't expecting that of you... so you scored well on that end.
Proud? No... I think addicted is a better word to describe what you confronted tonight. You didn't address her CD you were talking to her addiction.
Addictions have a life and character all their own : arrogant, selfish, merciless, and shallow... That's what you faced down tonight.
The thing about addictions is that while they can have a powerful hold on their victim they are ignorant of how powerful reality can be... Addictions are completely closed off from and out of touch with the world around them.
You just have to rally that world together and bring it down on both of their heads with full force.
