If your spouse is doing something to make you uncomfortable. The burden is on THEM to set you back at ease... That's their job when THEY dance near the line.
Your discomfort is your proof that he's missing the mark.
You tell him you aren't comfortable with his participation in the marriage.
At that point he has three choices :
a. Humour you. Promise to change while changing nothing - in short - be passive aggressive about the confrontation b. Pursue the behaviuor that causes you discomfort 100% and consequences be damned c. Act like an adult and curb the behaviour to a level your spouse is comfortable with again. Or curb it 100% if necessary.
Marriage isn't about forcing your spouse to suck up feelings that make them anxious. Marriage is working as a team.
