I agree...DFM: I have been totally liberated after coming to the realization that I don't need proof. All my actions were being based on that assumption: if I don't have proof I have to just trust what he says. Everything else I've done pretty well in with all of this. On that fact, it took a lightbulb to say, "NO. That's not the point." I hope you come to that realization sooner than I did!
His actions/words are enough to point to the fact that he is not being a good H, that his behavior is worthy of review, and that you CAN call him on it, proof or no proof.
