OH WOW!!! I missed so much!!! So couple of things... Mylicon... heard lots of great feedback, think I need to introduce it to S! When I first read that your D was feeling gassy, i thought, must be the food you are eating, as i have been told the same. So bye bye broccoli for now
I have to share in NM and Piano and the other's excitement on here! YOUR H WANTS TO TRY C!!! Excellent!!! not sure who wrote what but who doesnt benefit from counseling! and seriously, he left you once already... so it cant sting the same way twice... and you are much stronger and smarter now! And you have your D to give to continued stregnth!
Sounds like your H is seriously in crisis, and him wanting to try C is him asking for help. With MLCers, they have a hard time finding their way back home, and dont know how. (poor excuse, i know) but respect the situation and tackle it head on!
I WANT THIS TO WORK OUT FOR YOU!!! Dont listen to what H says about some couples arent meant to be, blah blah blah! He is insecure and scared. No, he doesnt fully understand the pain and hardship you suffered, but that doesnt mean he isnt suffering greatly inside too... yes, he is selfish, but most people get that way when they are feeling down about themselves... Clearly when he left, he wasnt thinking of anyone but himself, now he may start realizing that life is not just about him...
read my last post, H wanted to try MC in the spring, and eventually backed out, and blames me for not going, and I wish he would want to go again now! he has state boards in two weeks, and I hope afterwards he wants to dedicate some time to 'us'
I dont want to give you false hope... but i think this is a positive! like Piano said, you are a natural DBer... and while some may think this requires flash warnings, I think you need to trust your gut and take a chance.
What have you got to lose! if it doesnt work out, you are no far worse than you are now, and if it does... There are endless possibilities! So go for it! Take a chance... you dont want to look back and wish you had gone to C together... take baby steps and start reading up on Reconciling! some posts on here are pretty interesting!
